Health and wellbeing of the younger generation.

Is the younger generation healthy? Mentally? Physically?

What do most parents in our society do for their kids?

Most parents work. We make money to support our kids financially, to give them more opportunities and hope that they will be better off than we are.

I had a successful career that I loved and where I had a great future. Our first daughter at that time was in a daily after-school program, doing some activities, sports on the weekends, and everything seemed fine.

Only when she was in a middle school have I started noticing her change, and grow, and drift away, and at that time I really felt like she needed me more than ever. I only saw her over the weekends (and I had to work then too) and for couple of hours after work, every night. Those nights I would be exhausted after an intense 12-hour workday. I knew I was not the most patient, understanding, loving parent, during those stolen away hours, I had with my child.

After few instances, where I realized that my further absence from her life could be detrimental, I quit my job.

People would say I was lucky not to have to work. All I can say is bullshit! I made a choice, my husband and I made a choice. At that time I needed to be home with our child, and we had to make drastic changes to our lifestyle for me to do that. We sold our house, kept only one car, mover closer to town to lessen the commute for my husband, and to be able to rent, we could no longer pay for her riding lessons, etc. – it happened over a period of time, but all that was a direct result of us loosing second (very lucrative) income.

So now I was home, we bonded, we talked, we laughed, we cried…she was 9 at that time. Fast-forward 6 years later, today she is 15 and we are the best of friends. All that crap you hear about not beings a friend, but a parent – well I am both! She is a sophomore in high school and I can still ground her, take away her iPhone for talking back/raising her voice at her dad or me, I still dictate her bed time, her dietary habits, and she respects and listens to me. That is me being a parent. Helping, supporting, directing and leading by example, being assertive, straight forward, fair and consistent.

At the same time, we gossip, laugh and talk about her school, teachers, friends, boys, hanging out, hooking up, sex, God, colleges, sports, smoking, death, after-life, spirituality, meditation, drugs, alcohol, money, depression, her teammates – EVERYTHING! I am not saying it is about her telling me everything, no, I do not need nor want that, but what she feels the need to discuss, she can, she knows I am here, open minded and non judging! (at least not in her face)

She texts me from school to say thank you for a great salad I made her for lunch, or to tell me a boy she likes just talked to her. We post on each other’s Facebook pages. We have a secret high-five, and a secret call, so even when she is on the court playing Volleyball, I call her and she looks up to blow me a kiss. She tells me if I stress her out, or am being too pushy (colleges, homework, etc.), she feels comfortable and welcomed to confront me and tell me “how it is” and how she feels. We do not play games with each other’s feelings; we have strong, respectful, positive, honest and loving relationship – parent/child relationship. Where I will tell her that she is acting like a little bitch and that it is not fair to me – she will listen, understand, say “sorry” and mean it! And she will do the same, if I am acting like an “old” bitch; she just uses other words (no swearing for her ;))

She is never ashamed of coming up to me at school, or at the game, on the court, with hundreds of people around sometimes, and giving me a longest hug, kiss and telling me how much she loves me. And she is taller than me, 6’0″ 🙂

It started off as a joke, when her friends would tell her “I love your mom”, “your mom is so cool”…but it turned into something of a heart-break for me, to have these girls and guys, who are 16/17/18 year of age, tell me that they wish they could talk to their moms like that, and that they’d have this type of relationships with their parents.

So I think, this is what I want to do with my life, is to support, to share with, and to listen to the young people, the high school, the college students – they are our future, and our future, our youth between the ages of 10 and 24, choses to end their lives at alarming numbers. Suicide is the third leading cause of death in that age group in the U.S.

The younger generation is also not a picture of health, here are some facts:

  1. 17 percent of U.S. children and teens are obese — three times the number of a generation ago.
  2. Diabetes is increasing among U.S. children at an alarming rate, say researchers who report jumps of more than 20 percent since 2001 for type 2 disease, which is linked to excessive weight and sedentary lifestyles, and type 1 diabetes, which is an autoimmune disease.
  3. For the first time in two centuries, the current generation of children in America may have shorter life expectancies than their parents, according to a new report, which contends that the rapid rise in childhood obesity, if left unchecked, could shorten life spans by as much as five years. The report, published in The New England Journal of Medicine, says the prevalence and severity of obesity is so great, especially in children, that the associated diseases and complications – Type 2 diabetes, heart disease, kidney failure, cancer – are likely to strike people at younger and younger ages.

Our kids have to deal with poor nutrition (due to the lack of better health/nutrition education), lack of sleep, pressure we (parents, schools, media, society) put on them, stress of living up to someone else’s standards, lack of exercise or overdoing it and hurting their young growing bodies. They need peace, rest, good healthful, natural, nurturing food, healthy amount of physical activity, movement in their lives, and most of all they need our support, support of a parent, a coach, a teacher, a friend, a mentor, an adult who can listen, stay open-minded and give them time!

Maybe being an objective, chilled, positive and open-minded outsider, I could support kids in working out their issues and problems, answer their questions honestly and to the best of my ability, and hopefully makes their stressed, high pressure lives a bit easier. Could I give advise on a healthier living, relationship, stress management, better nutrition? – sure, but only if they ask and usually in my experience, they just want to be heard.

And as far as my family – whatever time I have with these two amazing gifts that God entrusted me with, my two girls, I just want to pour my love over them, and just to be there, ready and available to protect, support, lead, but mostly love no matter what. They make me want to be a better person, they are teaching me, and I see this as my job – not to be better than others, but to simply see, just how good I can be.

At some point they will grow up and move on with their lives, and my husband and I will enter a new amazing and much anticipated step in our lives together, time of solitude, companionship, contemplation, tennis, travel, making money and living it up! 🙂 Until then we are their secure stepping-stones into their unknown.

To your health,

Elena

Sources: (http://health.usnews.com/health-news/news/articles/2012/06/09/diabetes-rising-rapidly-among-us-kids)

(http://health.usnews.com/health-news/news/articles/2012/06/09/diabetes-rising-rapidly-among-us-kids)

(http://www.nytimes.com/2005/03/17/health/17obese.html?_r=0)

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  • kyraG
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    This post hits pretty close to home. I’ve seen it over and over with my peers and especially in my siblings and myself, almost as if there’s an ever urgent need and requirement to “make it out” in the world, but the culture our society has built over many many generations is counterproductive of providing the experience, support, and tools needed to successfully achieve this. I’m 23 and most of my peers and college graduates still haven’t “made it out” so to speak. This age/ generation’s struggle with suicide, obesity at one end, malnutrition at the other, various chronic health concerns, and more are all issues that hold people back. I don’t think there’s one singular cause or solution to it all. But developing and nurturing support systems that span across generations is a brilliant place to start. It’s amazing to read about not only the support you have for your daughters, but also the steps you’ve taken and how you show your ongoing support is truly inspiring. Makes me think a lot about the more mature parent/child relationship my mother and I are just beginning to nurture and develop. I really enjoy your posts, you have a very inspirational and thought provoking blog.

    • Elena
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      Kyra thank you so much for reading and for commenting! You comment means a lot especially the fact that you are young and a writer! The toughest kind of a critic I think 🙂
      I love how you call it the “nurturing support” I feel so drawn to connect with the young generation, not to help, they do not need our help, but to be there to support when needed and to provide some informations when asked.
      Again, I am so grateful for you encouraging and positive comment, truly makes me feel like I am on the right track.
      Best, Elena

  • gingeralicia88
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    An interesting read on a very important issue.

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